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True testimonies of women that left the work place.

What Will You Reap?

...I was working outside my parents' home from the age of 16 - the business type high school I attended was a work/study situation during junior and senior years and we went to school year round. I was a secretary in the labor relations department of a GM plant, so you can imagine the kind of atmosphere I was exposed to (I often had to walk through that factory plus many of the offices). And of course, the paycheck even back then was something all too easy to get used to.

I moved from my folks' home, had my own car and lived in two different apartments alone, then had a house of my own at the age of 23 - now in this regard I was different than other women my age but still, of course I know now, WAY outside of scripture. I wasn't running around chasing the men but know now I was WAY outside of scripture. (Should say I was raised liberal roman catholic, and most family members are still catholic). I've always been on the quiet and modest side; I never was much for partying or life on the wild side but yes, ublipved, until the age of 28. I met and married a man at that age for all the wrong reasons, and the marriage was a disaster and probably would not have occurred had I not been living outside my parents' home and been out in the world the way I was. (I should say here that I was a disillusioned but mostly obedient liberal catholic, at mass every Sunday and holy day but getting nothing anymore from the rituals).

Shortly before the marriage I found a small independent Baptist church close by where we would live and got saved but unfortunately did not stay there and was resistant to being taught, I was determined to marry this man and have a family and would listen to no good advice, so I guess you might doubt my salvation. We did get married in a southern baptist church, but he was never much interested in going to church though said he'd been saved when a kid. To make a very long story short, he "didn't want to be married anymore" after 6 years, and the marriage was annulled (we had no kids). Because he insisted he wanted to maintain his lifestyle he had always felt that I should work (he was one of these "half and half" fellows, you pay half and I pay half for everything), and I never stopped working during the marriage, but understand I knew this was how it would be before going into this marriage, so the mistake and blame are certainly mine all the way, and what a confused mess!

What a disaster life can be when you will not obey the word of God, and I can't plead ignorance - my sin was in being so independent and defiant (having your own money will allow that), and you will listen to nobody who is brave enough to try to teach you, plus the world certainly likes and encourages women to get out there and be independent. When the marriage ended, I bought a small home close by family and have lived alone here for 10 years now (I'm 45). No, ... I'll have to say I did not once think of returning to my parents' home after getting kicked out of my ex-husband's home at the age of 34 - my dad's an alcoholic, and I've not been able to get either parent saved, so for those reasons, the last thing I dreamed about doing was returning to that situation; it was sorry enough when I was younger and has not improved over the years. They do love me and would help me if I needed it but know I can't handle living around a commited chronic drunk and a mother who condones it...

I still fight that independent/defiant streak I have in me daily but have learned to pray more often about it. I now am able to work from my home as a medical transcriber. I keep in mind that as my parents are aging I will be there more and more to help and may end up spending more time there than in my own home anyway (or they with me if and when the time comes) but will have no problem with that and can be in a position to care for them. I'll keep trying to witness to them and be a good daughter; I'd like to believe they'll turn around someday.

Thanks for your serious and thought-provoking articles that line up with scripture and bring me to task. Hope some younger girls read what you and Mary have written in regard to staying home and take these things to heart, so much unnecessary grief could be averted. I thank God daily for all He's shown me and the way He's cared for me over all these years, He is so merciful, and things could have been so much worse for me.

In His Name, Cindy M.
"For ever, O Lord, thy word is settled in heaven" - Psalm 119:89 (KJB)

Editor's Note:

Galatians 6:7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. 8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. 9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.

Thank God for what He has done for this sister, but as one person has said, "I'd rather do things God's way in the first place than to be part of the whale's vomit." God can deliver you if you have made a mess of your life! Don't despair! But, for those of you who have not gone out to work yet, please take note. Yes, you can repent later, but sometimes, you must reap what you sow for the rest of your life on this earth. (God will also bless this lady for not remarrying after her divorce. Mark 10:11-12)

Counted A Privilege

I count it a privilege to be able to be home to care for my husband and two children. I was wonderfully saved when my daughter was 2, and having never been married, struggled and worked 3 jobs to make ends meet. The Lord provided and after waiting 6 years for the Lord to send me a godly husband, I am now able to stay home and complete my husband and take care of my children (we now have a new baby as well.) No job in the world will ever compare with the satisfaction that comes from doing what God made me to do.

My oldest daughter knows the difference and I am so tickled that I will never have to put my baby in child care to go to work. I also think any woman working should prayerfully consider doing without a few things in order to stay home. I do not believe that a woman can be totally submissive to her husband while trying to make it in the workplace. Yes, I know the extra dollars help, but if you were honest, priorities could be set for you to get behind your husband and let the Lord provide. Shame on any woman who knows she could budget to be home and doesn't.

I wouldn't choose to swap places with any "career woman." I praise the Lord for affording me the privilege of being here at home for my husband first and then my children.

Amen and Amen


Proverbs 31:25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
Proverbs 31:28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

Ladies, you will not be sorry for obeying God in this matter.  Galatians 6:7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.   If you chose to obey, you will rejoice in time to come and your husband and children will have rich cause to bless you.  If you insist on continuing in disobedience, don't deceive yourself into thinking that you can it will work out OK for you.  You cannot mock God and get away with it.  You may be sure that when you sow to the wind, you will reap the whirlwind, Hosea 8:7.   mev

Just A Little Sin...

I was greatly encouraged reading other women's testimonies how God delivered them from the workplace. Just recently (4 weeks ago) I resigned from my part-time weekend job as a nursing supervisor. I made great money, so the sacrifice was difficult for my husband. I know he struggled with the decision for this very reason. I prayed for so long (about a year) that he would agree to let me resign and stay at home with my 2 boys. It's only been 4 weekends that I've been home and what a change it's been. Some think, you only worked 2 days a week, what's the big deal? I got alot of negative feedback from my co-workers, even from my Christian friends. It's kind of "funny" how people stare at you when you explain why you want to stay home and take care of your family. wow! I LOVE it!!! It's very clear to my husband now that this is where God wants me. He works hard enough all week long and deserves a rest on the weekend. I treasure our time together as a family. We are currently selling our home and getting out of the New York city area! Praise the Lord! He is sooooo good! He has a certain way things ought to be, it's all clearly explained in scripture. Only we like to listen to our family, friends and even talk show hosts :o)

Praise God for His patience and faithfulness!

Sin is sin.  It doesn't matter if it is not as much as "other people" do.  Working out "just part time" is still not filling your responsibility of keeping at home.  Spending hours on end running all over town with friends, going to women's club meetings or even numerous Bible studies, is still not keeping at home; even if you don't work.  Doing community service and "good works" type things that take you out of your home regularly, is still not keeping at home.

James 4:17 Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.

Please send your testimony of how God delivered you from the work place.


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